I don't understand how one extremely attractive girl could make a couple of friends fight each other over her. Especially in the situation when the friends have known each other for longer than the desired girl. Suddenly, years of friendship are thrown out the window once this "babe" walks into the scene? This can also be the case for girls fighting over a boy.
I understand that humans are warm-blooded mammals, and have needs to satisfy. After all, mating is what's been driving the survival of our species. But you know what else has? Camaraderie and platonic friendship.
Look at everything non-sexual that has continued our existence. People helping people out. Friends help us to survive. We lay our problems onto them, they relieve our psychological stress and we carry on. They let us be ourselves and wouldn't leave us as easily as a sexual partner would. It takes more than kissing or sleeping with someone else to lose them - things that matter more.
And so this is why if someone, say, a boy, were to not like a close friend of mine, chances are you'd be working your way into my bad books. It doesn't matter if you happen to be the best male candidate out there. I love my friends and if you have a problem with them then you have a problem with me. I see a little of myself in them and I respect everything they do because in a way they're a better version of me. So if you have beef with anyone, you can go make a sandwich out of it and then shove it up your ignorant ass cos I sure don't care.
I do have a "chicks before dicks" attitude, but that may imply that I'm a bit of a feminist. I have no strong opinion on that matter despite coming from Macrob. I'm not saying girls are awesome and boys are dirt. I'm saying I would choose my friends over any potential sexual partner. I call this camaraderism and I am a camaraderist.
Weehee I made up a new word up. Hope it becomes a thing 8)
imo, chicks before dicks/bros before hos
ReplyDeleteoversimplifies the ideas you've put forward in this post.
but, what you've said is all really true, and reminds me of those feel-good films where everything doesnt end well but then the heroes or whatever look at eachother all calmly, then do a slight grin/smile representing their optimism and friendship and shiz.
and idk why i'm reading this at 4am ._.
^Eric I think you're analysing it too much LOOL
ReplyDeleteBut i agree with what eric said that the phrase "chicks before dicks" oversimplifies situations.
Though if a friend of mine "shot guns" a guy that I have interest in, I back off the guy and like you said, if a guy friend doesn't like my close girl friend, i'd be taking my girl friend's side.
But things aren't so easy because some people are infatuated easily and things aren't as simple as "chicks over dicks".
Like, let's say you were dating a guy for months and your close girl friend makes out with him. I'd be more pissed at my friend because as a gurlfraaaan i expect her to be more loyal than any douchebag boyfraaan! But that being said, if she had followed the "chicks over dicks" rule in the first place, there wouldn't be a problem.
But in the situation you previously mention, I agree with you all the way girlfraaaaaaan!
Hope you enjoyed the miniessay.
I like the thoughts going on here :)
ReplyDeleteohai you're right, I can comment here...
ReplyDelete"bros before hos, dicks before chicks" reminds me strongly of year nine as a tagline certain boiiz used back then. it was some sort of straight-forward honour code to abide by and i think that for me really highlighted the flaws of it.
but yar dont wanna repeat eric and kathy too much
just trying out my new-found abilities
ps. it didnt work via my LJ